Taboo “love” stuffs in workplace and reasons why it happens

I hate office romance.

Even if you say that it’s nothing serious, fuck dude, I hate it. This article would probably hit a lot of people as if I am casting an AOE spell but it’s a hybrid AOE ‘cuz it hits everything in map lol. And by “everything in map”, I mean the whole world.

This could be just me being pessimistic in everything, but hey, take time in conversing with me through this article, okay? I guarantee you it’s not just a trash rant of some girl in her twenties. It’s something important. If it does end up looking like a rant, just comment your fuck down and let’s see if I’ll give a damn.

Moving on,

when I got myself into employment, I couldn’t believe what I was seeing and hearing.

Maybe it’s just in “that” industry, but I assume it also exists in other industries. Well, the story is, I was 18 years old when I entered the call center industry. I was surprised at how most people can communicate openly those “green” stuffs. They joke about it as if it was something normal as drinking water. No one bats an eye. There were only very few people not joining the uncomfortable conversation.

One time, I became the subject of their joke because I told them I didn’t want to hear those stuffs. Yeah they were just kidding but being a serious person I am, I had to draw a line. My voice echoed in the room and everyone fell silent for a short period. I made it clear that I won’t allow them to include me in such stuffs.

I don’t hate my co-workers. They are actually good persons. I just hated what they were doing in the office.

I thought that open communication of green stuffs was the only taboo thing that I’ll encounter in the workplace. I had other jobs too. And the people I met are the same in a way that their pervness was open, at least to our team or department. I had to do my best to ignore that and to not hurt anyone by being blunt.

But you know what? I was wrong.

There is something else that made me cringe more than the open pervness of people in the office:

TABOO LOVE STUFFS.

Yep. Taboo relationships. Taboo love interests. Unacceptable shits that happen in the workplace that would probably make any one’s partner outside the workplace go Yandere mode :v

Maybe I’m just overreacting, or I just think too much, but am I wrong in thinking that everyone should behave? Or rather, be disciplined? Or, consider some moral shits :v

We had a situation wherein one of our girl co-worker was being courted by our male co-worker. Both of them have their own husband and wife outside, and both have their own kid. I don’t know the whole story dude, I figured I don’t give a fuck what they do to their own lives.

One female co-worker opened up to me and said she tried putting some sense into her friend, reminding that she has a family outside, but it seems she won’t budge. She was stressed in worry. I advised her to let go of the two morons building taboo relationship in our workplace because if they want to get their selves into trouble, then be it. Let them play fire and get burnt.

I also told her that the two morons just ended up liking each other now because they see each other a lot and they talk a lot in our workplace. Ever heard of Propinquity effect and Mere exposure effect? I’ll discuss it later, I’m gonna show some proofs you know. (Told ya, this isn’t just a waste-of-time-rant, ‘cuz you’re gonna learn something from it).

Another annoying situation in the workplace is when people already know that a certain someone is already in a relationship with a person outside the workplace but his/her colleagues still push teasing another one of their colleagues to him/her.

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Just how far can people go with stupidity?

You already know that the person has someone else yet you still push one of your colleagues to him/her. Wow. I see and hear this often and I am really irritated.

It seems to me that those people are encouraging an affair in the workplace, an affair that should not exist.

If not affair, then what?

Tell me what is the goal of this stupid shit you are doing.

People may say that they are just having fun and nothing’s wrong with it and other shits to cover their ass.

But here’s what I see:

Let’s make a scenario. Maria works in X company. She is in a very good relationship with her boyfriend Ken. Ken is not working in X company. Maria has colleagues and one of them is George. Maria’s colleagues are somehow aware of George’s liking to Maria. So, they always tease Maria to George and vice versa.

Teasing George to Maria amplifies his infatuation to her. And if this always happen, Maria can be affected too. She might feel a false interest towards George. And the moron colleagues have brewed a taboo “love”.

Why did George take a liking to Maria?

Well dude, it’s because of Propinquity Effect.

 

What is Propinquity Effect?

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Source: http://study.com/academy/lesson/mere-exposure-and-the-propinquity-effect-theory-examples.html

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Source: http://www.psychologyconcepts.com/propinquity-effect/

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Source: https://www.alleydog.com/glossary/definition.php?term=Propinquity

 

So yeah, the more physically close a person is to you, the more you like that person. George is in the same space as Maria. And that space is the office of X Company.

Another effect associated with Propinquity is the “Mere exposure effect”.

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The more that we see something, the more that we like it. The more we see or be with someone, the more we like them. For example, you heard a song on the radio. You don’t like that song. But since it is constantly played on the radio, you start to like it. Repetition dude.

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Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect

See? Even if in the first place, you don’t like something, if you are exposed to that, your fool brain tends to like it.

Same to having romantic interest to people in your vicinity :v

Instead of George fighting the propinquity and mere exposure effect, and the same for Maria, they fall into a fake love. Let’s also blame their colleagues of course, for the repetition of their bullshit (that goes into mere exposure effect).

Humans spend the whole day working somewhere. We only meet our family and friends outside during night. What little time we have there. There is weekend but 2 days? 5-6 days work is still higher.

Aside from fighting this propinquity and mere exposure shits, the colleagues should stop reinforcing the taboo love interest or relationship.

And that is why I hate office romance. Nowadays office romance is acceptable by majority and some love stories rooted from office romance have succeeded. But still, I don’t like it.

It’s like an evolved form of falling “in love” with your classmate.

 

Why the fuck did I write this article?

  1. This has been bothering me.
  2. My boyfriend is being teased to some female colleagues by their colleagues lol

 

If you know that someone is already owned by someone, BACK OFF.

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Kindly check out this video  by khanacademymedicine ,it explains propinquity and mere exposure effect very well.

 

Sensei in training~

3-4 weeks ago, I got an email inviting me for a job fair in Mall Of Asia. The event was set for February 14, 2017. I had a flu that day so I went out wearing jeans + shirt + hoodie.

I wanted to apply for IT related works but shit on us ‘cuz companies want experienced employees. Like hell noobs like us can get XP when no one would hire us. I went for a booth looking for online English teachers. The people who line up were kinda interviewed by their staff. The staff is composed of 99.9% girls so I was given the impression that it is an all-girls company, and that would be great. The interviewer said the salary is low but I said it’s fine. I can’t afford to be choosy, knowing I have nowhere else to go.

I didn’t expect to get a call from them because when they talked to me, I was dressed like a slob. I bet I looked terrible too because I had to sneeze every now and then and wipe my mucus. I even had fever during that time so I was like a walking bomb.

I’ve been in training for 3 weeks now. And the company is indeed an all-girls employee except for 1 male company owner and 1 male head teacher and yeah I forgot about the 1 male IT and 2 males who take care of utilities.

I won’t write long about this topic because I wanna write something else. bye

2016 Cosplay

I know it’s late but meh, I was busy planning for my incoming online shop.

Anyway, I promised that I will cosplay Nozomi so here are my pics~~

I am thankful for this shot from Ninja Media PH (I am too lazy to study how to customize the html here in wordpress, got a problem a while ago)

We got the wrong wig >__< Instead of Nozomi's wig, we got Umi's

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This one, I had it shot through phone:

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(THe convention was inside a mall so it’s crowded)

Next. some selfies:

Check out my facebook page Empress Fumiko for more 🙂 I had pictures with other Love Live cosplayers and other non-Love Live characters too ^_^

Sorry I had to make this short cuz I’m busy >__<

December cosplay update: fabric shopping

 

As promised, here is an update for my cosplay fabric shopping~

The place where I bought my fabrics is sooo far from my home so it took me 3 hours or so to reach it.

I went out during the morning with my koibito and got to the place by lunchtime so my first priority was to eat XD

There were a lot of people! It’s already December so people must have acquired their bonuses from their jobs so they definitely have money to spend.

If there is something that I have inherited from the characters in One Piece, that would be being klutz with directions like Luffy and Zoro do.

My mind was occupied with the goal of finding the stuffs I need so I totally forgot to take pictures of some interesting stuffs there. Also, the place was loaded with people that you can even barely walk.

It’s loaded with people that you can even barely walk.

By the way, I live in Philippines. For Filipino cosplayers who would like to know where the heck is this place that I am talking about….well….guess what, I won’t tell you 😛 You can just buy a costume from me instead XD

So here are the pictures of some stuffs I bought:

For our Saiki-kun and Teruhashi-san cosplay:

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For K-On school uniform:

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For my Anita Neru cosplay:

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I am also glad that I was finally able to buy needles for my sewing machine. It has been months since I accidentally bent my needle.

After I got the stuffs I need, I stopped by my koibito’s house and played Love Live! XDDD

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I got home late in the evening lol.

I was tired yesterday so I posted just now. =w=

I got stuffs to do. Ja~

Love Live cosplay for next month: Nozomi Tojo

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So, the original plan was to cosplay Teruhashi from The Disastrous Life of Saiku-kun + Emilia from Re:Zero but something happened. I was supposed to order Emilia’s wig and costume but the agent took days to reply and I am in a hurry as well so I have decided to cosplay Love Live instead since my fellow cosplayers in a Facebook Group will be cosplaying Love Live and Nozomi wasn’t taken yet >____<

Just an update, I have already ordered her wig =u= and the costume too.

I was supposed to go to a fabric store today to buy fabric for Teruhashi’s cosplay but eh…something happened. My boyfriend woke up late so I can’t go there anymore =w= Tomorrow I will go. And hopefully we can buy the materials I need for crafting props such as Katarina’s daggers XDD Know her? From League of Legends.

I think that’s all for today :3

I will post an update regarding my fabric shopping.

Will cosplay The Disastrous Life of Saiki-kun for sure XD

I know I planned some cosplay a few months ago, I wasn’t able to do them due to lack of funds. But now, I got a temporary job so I’ll be able to do some cosplay.

I watched the anime entitled “The disastrous life of Saiki-kun” and found it to be fun because the characters remind me of myself and my koibito haha.


I asked my boyfriend to cosplay Saiki, the main protagonist. He is that pink haired dude. Saiki is born with Psychic powers and end up using it for people around him.


As for me, I decided to cosplay Teruhashi, a beautiful girl that gleams at all times. She can make any guy feel an admiration for her, except for Saiki whom she doesn’t know, can read her mind. She’s acting all goody to attain that beautiful and kind girl image she wants. Ever since Saiki ignored her, Saiki has been her love interest. (I can relate as to how ahe fell for Saiki xD That’s how I fell for my boyiend haha)


The characters look ordinary at first look but if you watch the anime, you will see the unique storyline and other cool stuffs 🙂 I have no time to make a review xD

I do have a wig on stock that might fit Teruhasi:


Pardon my face XD I just got out of a night shift work. No makeup too.

Or I could just buy a color spray for my real hair…


I’ll need to cut my bangs shorter. I am not willing to cut my hair because I’ve been keeping it short for many years now so I missed having long hair =w=

As for the clothes, I’ll try to sew them by myself.

That’s all for now. I gotta sleep.